Clever day dates for caregivers

Finding coverage for your household during the evening can be nearly impossible or super expensive. But that does not mean that you need to sacrifice quality time and fun.

Caregivers so often report time and expense as reasons why they find “dating difficult.” So, take a mental health day and try out one of these inexpensive day date options.

Matinee performance

Matinee performances during the weekday are often cheaper and less crowded. Local theatre groups are often eager to fill those midweek/midday seats. You might be pleasantly surprised at what you can find.

Take a class

It could be a new workout class that you’ve never done, a cooking class, an art class, a gardening class. Most gyms give one free workout. Try out that aerial yoga class, with your partner, even if it's only once.

Flee market or farmer's market

Kill two birds with one stone. Do some grocery shopping while also getting some sun,

exercise, and moments to reconnect.

Try out all the new coffee shops in your neighborhood

There are 15 local coffee shops within 25 minutes of my home. So many coffee shops, and I love coffee. If coffee isn’t for you, why not donut dates, sandwich dates, or taco stand dates. The novel experience of exploring a new but inexpensive eatery can make it more realistic that you follow through. Of course, we all love fine dining, but the expense of it can be a major turn off. Keep it simple.

Explore a neighborhood

If not your neighborhood than perhaps a neighborhood. Many cities have local historical or cultural attractions. Google your city and explore.

Go to the park

Take your coffee, donut, or taco and hit the park. Parks are an underutilize luxury in many cities. Botanical gardens, concerts or movies, hiking paths, disc golf, ducks, and so many hidden gems are available to you FOR FREE.

Search for treasure

Yes, I mean antique or thrift shopping. I just so happen to live 15 minutes away from one of the largest antique stores in southern California. I could get lost in there for several hours looking at all the unique and nostalgic items. Sometimes I leave purchasing nothing or something as simple as a new to me butter dish.

Opportunities for connection in relationships is important, and for caregivers this will take effort so keep it simple. Identify opportunities for new experiences that are realistic for you and your caregiving/family situation. Reframe how you define dating and make it work.